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'Fireproof' challenges to verily love spouse

October 01, 2008|Christina Huffman

Last Friday night my husband and I went to see the movie Fireproof. It was a great movie and I recommend it to every married couple. Caleb Holt and his wife Catherine, have been married for seven years. It seems, however, that they have grown apart. Caleb feels that Catherine is disrespectful and ungrateful. Catherine is justifiably hurt because her husband has made some selfish choices. They fight constantly and finally Catherine tells Caleb that she wants a divorce. Caleb sees this as the only route to peace.

Caleb's dad steps in and asks his son to hold off on the divorce for 40 days. He sends Caleb a handwritten book called Love Dare. Each day a challenge is issued. Caleb grudgingly follows through, and his wife rejects all his half-hearted gestures. Halfway through the 40 days Caleb realizes that he cannot love his wife. It's just not in him. This realization leads him to the end of himself and he finally gets on his knees and cries out to God. He is filled with a new love for his wife and sets out to really win her heart back.

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From this point on, there was plenty of sniffling going on in the packed out theater. I even saw a tough looking guy sitting next to me dabbing his eyes. I'm not going to tell you anymore. You have to see it for yourself.

I will share one neat tidbit with you. There is a kissing scene between Caleb and Katherine. However, Kirk Cameron's real life wife, Chelsea Noble, steps in as a body double in that scene. Even in his profession of acting, Cameron has chosen to honor his vows. I hope that a lot of people will go see this movie. I hope that a lot of marriages will be strengthened because of it. I know that my husband and I both left this film feeling very challenged to love each other more.

One of my favorite lines from the movie was when Caleb's best friend said, "Don't just follow your heart. Lead your heart." Divorce is rampant in our society because we allow our hearts to lead us. I agree with Jeremiah 17:9, which says, "The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?" We need to know God's word and we need to be led by truth.

Our hearts tell us that love is a romantic feeling. Most relationships do start out this way, but romantic feelings are not what sustain a relationship. Those feelings are like the adrenal gland, which gets things going. Eventually, the adrenaline slows down and the real work begins. The problem with our Hollywood perception of love is that when the adrenaline slows down, people think they have fallen out of love.

The truth is that love is an action and a choice. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 tells us, "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." If we can really walk this way, then romance takes on a whole new meaning.

At least, I think it will. I feel challenged to put more energy into truly loving my husband the 1 Corinthians 13 way. I'll update you on the results at a later date. Go see Fireproof. You will be challenged to truly love your spouse.

I'm blogging. You can read my blog at www.chrissyh.wordpress.com or by selecting "From My Heart with Christina Huffman" from the Blogs section on the menu bar of The Jessamine Journal's Web site.

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