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Down the Lane: Taking time to talk to older relatives ensures survival of family histories

June 07, 2012|By Sue Staton

Well, I had my visit with my second cousin, Della Oaks, on Monday. I couldn’t have chosen someone from my family history to have visited to get my history juices rolling more than her. 

It turns out she is as hungry to learn more about my family as I was, so another meeting with other cousins is taking place.

Della’s father, Nelson Willoughby, was injured in the war, but it was a heart attack that took his life. Della was only 7 years old at the time, and her brother, Nelson, was born a month or two after his death. Their mother took them to live with her mother’s family after her father’s death, so Della has spent her life wanting to know more about her father’s side of the family.

This information shocked me since I have always remembered her at our family reunions. Now, I know why I was meant to forget her 90th birthday party. Sometimes having life take turns leads you to other roads, and this is a great example of a road I have not yet went down and paths to be explored.

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Della confirmed something my Mom told me about life down the lane. My Mom always told me that my grandmother cooked every Sunday and had company in to eat. Her table would be overladen with food from the farm and she never knew who would show up on Sunday to eat between church folks and other visitors. 

I loved it when Della told me a cooking tip that my grandmother had given her many years ago that she has continued doing throughout her life. That tip was to put a teaspoon of sugar into your green beans when you cook them. I have grown up cooking green beans the same way.

I realized that if I don’t record things about my family, it could be lost for the future generations to come and other descendants.

I have also been thinking about something Della said to me when I thanked her for visiting with me.
She was so gracious but it was these words that really struck me — “Well, honey, we are from the same blood.” 

You know, that phrase stayed with me all day. We all have relatives that we may not find to our liking, or their way of life is different from ours, but we are all linked to one another by blood. We have a bond to each other that only our blood gave us. Though we all lead different lives, without our ancestors there would not be a one of us.

While some people couldn’t care less about their heritage, I am hungry to learn all I can about mine. I want to know as much as I can and never stop learning.

Then too, I tend to think of the bigger realm of life. For me, we all came from the greatest heritage of all through the blood of Jesus. In my way of thinking, we are all related in this world and if we would only think of life this way we would be so much better for it.

If I can get another family to get serious about their history through this article, it will make me happy and your families will be better for it.

For those of you who are well up in years, take an afternoon and write about your childhood. Even if it is about a day you remember playing or working with your siblings or parents, put it on paper and date and sign it. Someone some day will thank you for it.

I promise you it can be intriguing.

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